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Making MAJOR Decisions
Choosing your major can be tough and stressful for people. Especially when you're 18 and 19 and have no idea what you would be interested in doing for the rest of your life. In my opinion I think kids are way too young starting college and deciding what their major is. I know that some people know what they want to do and have plans but for the kids who are confused do not worry I was in the same exact boat as you. Going into college my mom basically picked my major for me which was nursing that basically why she wanted me to go to my school. At first I was so excited I really thought nursing would be for me. I was taking all of the classes, and I was doing it but then I started to find myself more and more distracted. I was completely swamped with work, and I hated what I was learning. I have absolutely no interest in nursing school. After two years of being in nursing classes I finally decided that this was not for me. So i decided to go from nursing to communications. Lets just say my mom was not too happy with me. Going into the program I felt lost I wasted two years doing something I hated so that was the feeling I was used to. After taking a few classes I really liked it but i always got the question of "well what do yiu do with a communications degree?" Genuinely I did not know what to say with that. I was more confused than I was before if im being honest. There were so many aspects to to a communications degree that I didnt know about I thought I would want to go into advertising and marketing, it was something i loved learning about. Then i realized maybe it is not something I want to do. I just felt like I was hitting a wall every turn I made. Now if you are feeling like this and are just as lost as I was I will tell you it is nothing to worry about. I am now 22 years old graduating with a professional communications major and I still do not know what I want to do but what now puts me at ease is knowing there are so many options for me out there. I do not want to be stuck at 50 hating what I am doing with my life so having all of these options means I get to try new things.
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I was never one for starting over change did scare me. However now that I am in such a broad major it pushed me to try new things. Heres an example I was just talking about Im in professional communications but I am finishing my college experince off taking media classes. Now I had no idea what the hell i was doing in these classes but it pushed me to do things I didn't know that I was capable of or that i would end up loving. My senior capstone project I decided to make a documentary. Only time I ever held a real camera was taking photos for my sisters prom. I had now idea what went into making a documentary but I applied myself, I learned and it was one of the best experinces I had. Learning how to edit, learning how to use a camera with mics and just trying something new made it so much better for me and so motivated. All I wanted was for this to turn out grat and I put so much time and effort it was like my baby for a semester. Also I have something to show for in my college experience.
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If your reading this where you are a man or a female and feel like you are lost in the world of college in the educational side of things, do not give up. Not only that but just try different things. if you want to go into school undecided and figure things out then do it. Do not let your parents or friends decide what they think is best for you. Thats what I did and i ended up doing the complete opposite. Make sure to apply yourself in all aspects as well. Don't just (excuse my french) half ass it make sure whatever you are working on you have something to show for when you are walking across that stage as they call your name.
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Positive Attitude
Im just going to be completely honest everyone. I absolutely hate going out now and I have come to realize that that is okay. Im just gonna spill some tea, I had a family party this week and if I am being transparent I really dread going sometimes because I already know the conversations that are going to happen. My favorite question is "oh new boyfriend already?" even though they met him already or "what are you doing with your life?" It's always the same questions and conversations but what really triggers me is that when I actually have an answer to these questions everyone is shocked. I learned that sometimes people do not expect much from you and it is really sad. When I was younger I hated school and I would always be with friends, like I mentioned before my family is a little too old school for me and because I did not like it too much growing up everyone just thought I was a bad kid so now that I am 22 that still makes me a bad kid. Also does not help that my mom is a little on the crazy side so people just assume im just like her. I always thought it was a bad thing when people would say "you're just like your mom." I slowly realized that it is a good thing. If you ever feel like your family is making you feel self- conscious or bringing you down at all just always keep in mind that they probably see you for a few hours even few months and they do not see you on a day to day basis.
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Now going onto the going out part, my family thought that it would be fun to tell me what I like to do now. I tried explaining that going out and meeting people is something I do not find a liking to. Now my version of a good night is going out to dinner with my friends or boyfriend having a few drinks and then going home. As we get older our priorities change and we find ourselves doing different activities than what we used to do. Im all clubbed or barred out. But they know best right? It just triggers me when people try telling you they are older so they know best but clearly then do not know who you are anymore from seeing you for a few hours once every few months. I work myself up so much when people say things to me and that's something I need to work on and maybe it is something you need to work on too. We need to pick and choose our battles in life. Arguing with someone and always being upset is a feeling that keeps us miserable. Trust me I wish I could say whatever I felt to my family but that is just not the case. We can obviously stand our ground but there's a limit and reaching a limit just causes rifts and there's no point in doing that especially with people we barely see. So just always remember to keep a positive attitude and stay true to the person you want to be not who everyone else wants to be.
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